Top 5 Reasons online dating is hard for men

How is it possible to be so incredibly unsuccessful at online dating when you are a reasonably good looking professional who is neat and has all of their teeth? Shall I list the reasons? That is a rhetorical question because I am listing them anyway.

Women want to know the reason you caused the divorce — There is this strange phenomena when dating someone you met online where they absolutely grill you about the reasons for your divorce in minute detail. Yet they somehow never mention theirs. I found one lady had been married 5 times! Another had two husbands leave due to infidelity! Yet both those things were mentioned only as an aside. The absolute irony is that 70% of divorces are initiated by the woman. And that is not just in their relationships with men. Lesbian couples have a far higher divorce rate than gay men. This is not saying that I did not cause my divorce, just that it is an unequal battle when dating.

Women date up — I rarely get a like or match from a woman my own age. They are almost all 5 to ten years older. I have only dated 2–3 that were financially better off. Yet they question the car I drive and the apartment I live in HARD. I work from home and have long ago stopped viewing a car as a status symbol. I am really reasonably content with my 2003 Ford Focus that was formerly my oldest daughter’s car from high school. I can do most of the work on it which makes up for a slightly higher breakdown rate. My apartment is in a basement which definitely raises eyebrows. But I value unfettered use of a back yard for my dog over status. I like to have a large amount of savings too. There is no way I am paying for leather seats for an over-priced car I don’t really like. Dating up also extends to appearance. There are only a small percentage of women that like or match me that I find attractive. Most dates I am the more active and younger looking one. This may sound shallow, but I am not looking for a beauty queen. Just someone reasonably attractive.

Food — There are so many women that are extremely particular about food. I honestly had a date that came over for dinner but brought all of her own stuff and barely touched what I cooked. Many go to a restaurant and barely take a bite. Food is such a large and wonderful thing to me, I need someone that is willing to be a little adventurous. Plus, I cook. I am not looking for a relationship where I get waited on

Dogs — Many women seem to think that your dog who has been the best and most loyal friend in the world to you during your divorce, is somehow negotiable. You can move into a fancy condo that is utterly unsuitable to a pittie mix, travel and leave your dog wherever, or ditch your dog completely when they become inconvenient. None of these things are happening. At the dating stage of our relationship, I value my Mila way higher than you.

They don’t live up to your ex-spouse — This is probably the harshest for me. My wife and I were matched on a wide spectrum of things. We both had blue collar backgrounds so are values were similar. We drove Chevys and Fords. We lived in a modest ranch house. We had 0 debt. We like almost all of the same music. We loved to eat together and enjoy new food. I have yet to date a single woman that comes close, so I am doomed by design. Maybe it’s not the women … Yeh it’s probably me.